I figure this has got to be the best place for me to voice my frustrations. Get it out of my system.

As a number of you know, Melvin resigned from his last job in August. And I encouraged his resignation. I did. He thoroughly hated working in that hellhole, there were no benefits whatsoever, the pay was bad, he had less than HALF the number of annual leave I was granted and he would often reach home much later than I did, despite only needing a 20minute travel time to/from work.

Why did he take up such a sucky job, then? I'm sure some of you must be wondering. Well, for someone who'd just graduated, this one-year contract looked prefect to gain some experience. The pay and leave may be low, but hey, it's just for a year.

It was only after a few months in the job that Melvin realised why the turnover rate was so high for his department (read:political old bitch). And he tried to stick it through the year. Until he got wind from HR that a certain political old bitch was trying to get him fired by complaining to HR about him. This political old bitch (POB) was from the same department, but was in charge of another team. Melvin doesn't even work with her =/ She apparently enjoys making life difficult for managers of other teams in the department, and HIS manager apparently made the POB look bad in front of the big boss. So he was, somehow or other, drawn into this unwillingly.

And so he left. Better to resign then to get fired, no?

and HERE'S MY MAIN RANT

Since then, Melvin Chong has done NOTHING. I repeat, NOTHING.
That bum hasn't even put in significant effort in looking for another job. He just rots away at home. God knows what he does.

I really don't see why I have to nag him night and day to do something so... essential. And most of the time, I wonder if that is the guy I'm going to marry? Then please. No thanks.
I'm not his mother. I refuse to keep telling him he has to do this and that, and fucking have to REMIND him the following day.

I have been understanding in his lack of success, telling him it can take a few months. I have been patient with him and thought perhaps, a month's break from work would be good for him. But to find out he has made NO EFFORT WHATSOEVER just PISSES ME OFF.

Shape up or ship out, Melvin. I have no tolerance for your fucking excuses.

Melvin and I decided to drop by his grandparents' place after we had lunch with Uncle Teng and Glenn at Furama Waterfront.

When we got there, his grandma was looking out the window, all dressed up and she even had makeup on. After we went into the house, she offered us drinks. The only odd bit was how we ended up sharing a can of coke.

Grandma: Would you like a drink? Get a coffee or tea?

Us: Oh no thanks. We just had one

Grandma: How about something to eat?

Us: Oh no thanks, we are quite full from lunch

Grandma: How about a drink? Coffee or tea?

Us: Umm, really, we're good..

After she asked for like the fourth time, we kinda went "Yes! Alright, we'll ask the maid to get us a coke.."

Then for some reason, she thought we were going to bring her out to dinner and proceeded to shower, change into something else and put on another layer of makeup. It was quite... disconcerting, to say the least.

Needless to say, both of us left the place feeling more than a lil guilty. I mean, she thought we were going out, yaknow? We could have if we had the car. Just drive her around and have a simple dinner. But we didn't have the car and we couldn't take the bus/train and all.. I mean.. she can walk! She's not wheelchair-bound or anything. Just.. not a good idea to bring old folks out using public transport (steps.. escalators.. etc)

Odder than Odd? She didn't even know we were coming.

The maid, Yati, told us she just gets dressed to go out. And she waits by the window until she decides to shower... then she gets dressed again (in another outfit), puts on her makeup, and waits once more.

It's quite heartbreaking.