Tuesday, September 29, 2015

When you want to get things done, do it yourself

Good news: we've collected the keys

Bad news: I've left the reno to Melvin. When he gets it done, I'll buy 4D.

I don't know why I'm not terribly excited about moving into a new place. Wait a minute, I think I know why after all. It's a lot of unnecessary work. I thought it could/would be done quickly.

1) Select an ID, anyone with good reviews will do
2) Pay him/her
3) Move in!

As it is, we haven't even completed step 1. Oh well... if it gets done, it gets done. Things are moving so slowly that I've lost interest in the whole project. Not that I've contributed much, you understand.

I'll keep you updated, IF there are updates. As of now, things haven't changed... since.. oh... ummm... March/April. That was when we started looking for IDs.

should I just take over from him?

Monday, August 10, 2015

Still have no found an ID

It feels as if we have been going round in circles since April. We have spoken to at least 6 interior designers (or at least, their sales rep) and one contractor. At each meet, new ideas are thrown in, some are discarded. It has been very frustrating because everytime we THINK we are firm on what we want, one of the IDs would go, "But did you think of...."

After 3 months of research/meetups (work mostly done by Melvin), I think we are FINALLY set on what needs to be done. Naturally, I have realised that my wishlist is impossibly expensive and there is no way we can afford Caeserstone Quartz tops, blum hinges, solid doors and tonnes of carpentry. So we are going to keep it simply. Minimal, really, so that the budget hits 25K to 30K.

Melvin's task is to get the IDs we've met up with to requote based on our new requirement. We had initially wanted to redo the bathroom tiles and all, but that racks the cost up at least $2000 or $3000, so we scrapped that idea. His idea of doing paneling to hide the bomb shelter door was also thrown out the window because it would have set us back by at least $1000. I had wanted a raised platform for the bed, that was thrown out too.

In the end, it's just standard kitchen cabinets, shower screen and vanity for Master bath, standard wardrobe for master bedroom, one shoe cabinet and one tv console. grand total = $25 000.

How it can cost so much for seemingly so little, I'll never know.

I don't understand. We aren't doing much but it's so expensive. It is beginning to feel as though I may well NOT renovate the house because it's not going to look like it was renovated, if you get what I mean. We can just buy IKEA furniture and chuck it in and it'll look just about the same for much less.

Don't even feel like having house warming for the place because it really is.. nothing..much..

Sunday, April 05, 2015

Starting research on renovation

We expect to collect the keys to our new place sometime this year, so we have been spending our weekends meeting up with various interior designers to get ideas.

Some of the designers we met (e.g one design werkz, vegas interior) were more forthcoming with ideas. They let us know what would work, and what wouldn't. And we learnt quite abit from those 2 IDs. The ID from one design werkz just wants us to pay for the design first, then work out a quote later on. Which is, super.. weird. I'm not doing anything unless everything is down in black and white. I don't want for pay 3k for pretty drawings of a house to find that I can't afford to do the reno itself. The ID from Vegas was very detailed in her explanation, which helped us a lot, particularly when we didn't know what we want. But she also spent time bitching about some other companies, which put me off. soo... yeah.

We also spoke to representatives from Gaia Living (the showroom was impressive, the salesguy.. nope.), and 3D innovations. Gaia Living and 3D innovations will get back to us with their quotation this week.

After speaking to 4 - 5 of them, we have a better idea of what we want in terms of design and materials. At least we have contacts and when we finally do decide on the items, we'd be able to get more accurate quotes.

It's been a busy few weeks and it'll just be busier until this whole reno thing is over and done with.

I'll post ideas here as and when I get inspired, I think. Then you guys can let me know if you think it's OK.

Right, so I'm going to spend the rest of the night figuring out whether I want granite, quartz, solid surface, kompacplus or laminate for my kitchen counter tops. >.> I hate making decisions.

Wednesday, February 25, 2015

When someone I know is insane but he ain't listening to reason

Before I get to the main topic of the post, I just want to whine and complain a little bit. I woke up this morning and attempted to leave the bedroom. I didn't make it very far because I walked face first into the wardrobe. Spent the next ten minutes cradling a bleeding and swollen lip.

In my defense, it was 5.30am, and hence, was pitch black in the room.

So I spent the rest of the morning feeling sorry for myself.


Someone I know (let's call him W) met this girl (pick another random letter.. say.. C for crazy).

OK, let me start over. C's mom had a friend who was working for W's dad. This friend then decided to link the 2 up for a meet.

So they met. 20 days ago.

From what I heard, the timeline was something like this.

Date 1 - went well
Date 2 - realised they liked each other
Date 3 - SHE initiated a trip to a local hotel.

By date 4, she managed to convince W to register for a ROM date and they are are talking about moving in together.

At the same time, C convinced W to pay for all the dates, as well as expensive gifts (a two thousand dollar bracelet for V day for one..). She also got him to agree to pay for a $1200 monthly rental of a master bedroom of a condo somewhere.. while she keeps her salary for herself.

All these, in 20 days.

I keep tellling W that there is something wrong with C. No self-respecting girl would initiate a hotel trip and literally throw herself at a guy by the 2nd or 3rd date. Neither would any SANE girl be in such a desperate rush to get married after knowing a guy for less than 20 days!

Needless to say, W isn't listening and it is very frustrating.

I have given up on trying to convince him not to move in with her so fast. She isn't looking for a husband.. she is looking to marry anyone who can buy her things and pamper her.

I know I'm not exactly a good judge of character, but come on... anyone can see what a fool W is, right? He'll regret this, then by that time, they are legally bound and it'll be too late.

Come to think of it, I should have called the girl B instead of C. B for batshit crazy.

Saturday, December 20, 2014

I was sad when I started posting this. Now I'm just pissed.

His phone kept blinking last night. It... disturbed me so I went to take a look, and to close all the apps that were causing the annoying blinking.

Quite naturally, I looked at his call history. And saw a number that he's been calling regularly every few days or so, particularly during lunch.

I had this sinking feeling, but figured there has to be a logical explanation, so I googled the number. Ah, he's been calling Citibank.

Sigh. He must have forgotten to pay his credit card bill AGAIN.

Then I spent the rest of the night feeling miserable.

No, it isn't because he forgot to pay the bill. It's just.. I hate the feeling. You must understand that I thought he would never lie to me. I thought that our love/relationship/marriage was real and based on trust. Then to find out all the lies he's told for six whole months. To find out there was someone else in his life. It's like.. how do I trust him again? I find myself trying to analyse everything he tells me. Is he telling the truth? How can I tell if he is lying to me? What if he wasn't where he said he was? Who did he talk to during lunch? Did he call anyone to chat on the way home? I have those doubts every single day... and it's tiring.

I don't understand those people who cheat. I mean, if you are THAT unhappy in your marriage, for fuck's sake, try to fix it, or get a divorce. Don't do the whole spineless, deceitful cheating thing and cheapen your marriage.

I am not unhappy. But.. neither am I happy. I would be happier if we signed the divorce papers, but he's convinced me to give things a try so that's what I'm doing. I refuse to wear the wedding ring though. Symbol of our love, my ass. If the ring wasn't pricey, I would have already tossed it/shoved it up his skinny ass.

Thursday, December 11, 2014

Korea 2014 - Seoul and Jeju

Korea was rejuvenating, to say the least.

I'd give a day to day description/post except everything in my memory is a blur now. I remember bring on the tour bus thinking "I'll never forget the scenery. The trees, the lovely streams of icy-cold water running over grey pebbles." Then the day after we return, I tried to recall everything it was we did... and I realise I can't remember everything.

I remember the feeling that we did alot of exercise this holiday. Which is why I didn't put on any weight. If anything, I lost half a kilo despite all the street snacks.

Day 1 was spent travelling. We arrived in Seoul in the morning, went for a facial, had lunch, then flew to Jeju. So things really started happening Day 2.

It was something like:
Day 2 - Climbed some mountain in Jeju (see I don't even remember the name).

We took about 45 minutes for the ascend and descent. At that point, I was really thankful we have been going to the gym regularly. Else we may not have survived the climb. It was raining and terribly windy, so I brought along an umbrella. Mountain chomped it up and spat it out in less than 10 minutes, so we tossed it and just braved the rain. Not like we had any choice after the umbrella broke into two.

The teddy bear museum was fun. Saw a more spontaneous Melvin as he posed with the bears. I won't put the pictures up here though.  

Day 3 - Walked through their National Park and used 10,000 won to buy a temple roof tile. We get to write our names and wishes on it. I think it was supposed to have been written in Chinese because it was for a Buddhist temple .. but I was too cold to think. As it is, I couldn't remember how to write my name in Chinese. So I wrote in English.

Day 4 - Ski. We did like a portion of the kiddy slope. Quite a number of people had to jump out of my way. Melvin caught it on camera. It's so not funny.
"Ahhhh!! Excuse me!! MOOOOOVEEEEE!" *guy leaps out of my way*

Well at least, I managed to pose for a still shot before the disastrous screaming/going the wrong direction/cannot brake/almost ran into a group of tourists trip down the slope. 

Day 5 to 7 was a blur. I wanted to try Lotteria (Korea's fast food). But it had calories pegged to it. So I lost my appetite. Then I realised EVERYTHING had calories pegged to it. Even their bakeries.. next to the price tag was a calorie count. As a result, I didn't try the buns from Paris Baguette, or from any bakery for that matter.

We got to try on traditional clothes. It was quite fun, prancing around in a costume. 

We also got to make our own kimchi and korean pancake. Oh the amount of oil used for the korean pancake. *shudder* It was yummy though....

Went to watch the "Wedding Show". It was fun to watch. I enjoyed the songs. I also enjoyed the eye candy. Very Much. Tried not to drool too much and all.

The tour ended on Day 7. We opted to extend our stay for 3 more days though. So it was 3 days of SHOPPING. I didn't take pictures of our loot (and horribly overweight luggage). Just know that our total baggage weight for check in was 48kg and we had to be creative and did a lot of repacking at the airport itself. So it was 46kg check in, 20kg carry on. We maxed out everything, including my credit card.

Melvin and I bought 200 masks each. And we also bought sleeping packs, and a huge assortment of creams, lotions and other weird things you apply on the skin. For some reason, we also ended up with 3 bottles of shampoo.

BUT, other than shopping as if we have bottomless wallets, we also went for a DMZ tour and took a peek into North Korea.

One of the stops was an infiltration tunnel. Supposedly dug by North Korea back in the sixties so that they can invade South? They didn't allow pictures inside the tunnel itself so we could only take pics at the entrance.

The tunnel was 25 floors underground. There was no lift. We were wearing jackets at the beginning because it was 2 degrees Celsius. By the time we had to walk up, all jackets were off and we were perspiring like mad. At least it was a steep slope to get to the infiltration tunnel and not stairs. Else I may have volunteered to stay in the tunnel permanently.

We ALSO went for a haircut at Juno hair (Near Ewha Women's University). Melvin permed his hair. Our stylist, Lee Tae Kyung, was fantastic. She sighed a lot at our hair though. *laugh* Well, my hair is really damaged from the perm/colour earlier on in the year. Then Melvin's haircut was.. not very nice and she had to fix his hair. He loves his new cut, as do I.

It wasn't cheap, of course. But worth every cent. She spent quite a bit of time discussing about what needed to be done. She refused to perm/colour my hair because she said I need to let the hair rest? Anyway, she was really nice and she knew exactly what to do.

Before we left, she even gave us heat packs because it was cold. If you guys are headed that way, I highly suggest you get an appointment with Tae Kyung for your hair!

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

When others want to shine

Those who know me well know that I am perfectly fine when someone else has a spotlight. In fact.. I'm perfectly happy being in the background for most.

But when I've slogged a full year for a research project, I expect to be given some credit, at least.

The first 2 lessons of the project was crafted as a team. Then I did the next two on my own. It was sent to the team for 'comments', but.. other than my RO, no one really gave comments..

I did all resources on my own. I planned the timing for all the recording. I even recorded the data for my teammates to analyse.

Then we had a presentation today and I was supposed to talk about the project with one of the team mates...

Then somehow she took over and made it seem like it was her who did the bulk of the work. "WE" met up with the professors, "WE" planned the lessons according to the rigorous structure etc. She even took over the portion I was supposed to present when all she did was crunch data. There was no mention of me being the research teacher at all. So I was rudely shoved aside, figuratively.

I mean, she wants the spotlight.. go ahead la. I'm not keen on climbing the ladder, but at least give my name a mention for all the work I've done...

Incredibly upset.