got this from a link from lianne's blog.. ck.. you once asked me what kinda guys do girls want.. here it is :)

You want a guy who gazes into your eyes as though he's seeing stars for the first time, who calls you because he really is thinking about you, who wants to hold your hand and hear your thoughts — and not just get in your pants (or get home in time to watch the Jets game). Sometimes it seems as if they discontinued that model after 1946 or — if you believe the Meg Ryan flick "Kate and Leopold" — somewhere in the 18th century. But scientists have some reassuring news.

Apparently, when the world's top researchers finished mapping out the human genome last year, they found firm DNA evidence that true romance still exists. However, it is a rare trait, and in most males of the species it's somewhat impaired, according to a report in the New England Journal of Chromosomal Abnormalities. But don't despair. Gene therapy — which is now being used to cure a startling number of inherited disorders — will soon be available. Men who previously showed all the chivalrous potential of an Indy 500 car mechanic will be transformed into Gregory Peck and Matt Damon on an Emily Post high (or, at least, they'll be able to dial the phone).

Until then, there's not much you can do to find old-fashioned romance except keep hope alive — and rewire some of your expectations. I've found that tenderness, reliability, genuine interest, and that delicious hint of adoration and doting can be found where you least expect it. Sometimes, our romantic dreams are out of sync with reality (never mind the genetic possibilities). Holding out for a handsome stock broker who does yoga and loves to give back rubs and discuss the poems of Rumi is, how should I put this, stupid! Look for someone more ordinary and less of a "player" — a guy who is willing to love you, truly and simply, for being you. Matthew McConaughey may never waltz into your life, but Mike from down the hall might be a real-life Romeo underneath his rough exterior. Remember that romance is about true, tender, expressive love — not Rumi and back rubs or bells and whistles.